How Will We Love?

As much as I've been telling myself to stop wasting time and to concentrate on work, I spent the last 38 minutes watching part of the above video, and another(update) about 27 minutes writing this post.

I won't firmly say I completely understand or agree with what is said in the video. I mean, the topic of love is very elusive, and come on, I'm fifteen! But it is a wholly undefined and most definitely not concrete concept I feel. I cannot comment much about this at my age, at my point, but I do think it is extremely sad how it is true, that relationships do not seem to sustain in modern society. As statistics reveal in the video, there is indeed a large number of divorce cases occurring, and it is undeniable that this number is bound to rise, exponentially. Similarly, issues mentioned such as adultery and otherwise, they are happening around and we have to face it.

I have said before I do not believe in true love, or the idea that two people can be together for the rest of their lives. Not that my parents have any issues in their marriage, but basically because I feel that livelong commitment and whole-hearted trust and selfless eternal affection are things that homosapiens just cannot seem to manage. Despite all the talk about how one can truly go all out and dedicate their remaining years to being with someone else, once they have found The One they are destined to be with, I do not agree; especially so, in this day and age of globalization and modernization. I just find there is no substantial amount of truth or even evidence, that this is possible.

Not to say that I have loss all faith in human kind, to a certain extent perhaps, but at the end of the day, I just have the thought that it is not practical to be involved so madly in a relationship. Maybe I will only think so now, at this age. But right now I feel, relationships are complicated – any kind of relationships, friends, family, acquaintances, colleagues. Interpersonal bonds at any level are complicated. And it appears so unfamiliar and incomprehensible to me. Additionally, besides its complicity, there is a distinct element of fragility bugs me too. Relationships and ties are just so breakable – one moment it is so strong, so sturdy, and brimming with hope and promise, while the next, it crumbles into smithereens. It is very saddening.

So perhaps it is this mentality of mine about the fragility of relationships that has led me to disbelief the power of love. Of marriage. To put it cuttingly, at this point, I think marriage, or relationships on a whole, is a waste of time. With regards to marriage, isn't it merely a said title? And as for Love, isn't it merely a term humans have made up, as a loose coverage of a huge pool of indescribable emotions? It is all only words; words hold no weight. Isn't it disgusting how words can just be thrown out into the universe, and mean nothing, and everything at the same time? Just look at how all the flowery and sweet-as-sorbet expressions gush out when one is in "love". What bullcrap.

Whatever it is, I do agree I am far from being mature enough to understand the nuances of adults – the whole love, romance, relationship and marriage stunt. Truly, it makes no sense to me. Maybe I come across sounding very naive and even stupid to adults, or even peers, but frankly, this is my two cents worth. And just to put it out, to an even greater extent am I unable to begin to fathom why people of my age would go or desire to enter romantic relationships. Do you honestly know what you are going after? Well, my take would be, you don't. Quit wasting your time i will say. But then again, my words hold no substance.

However, if you do question me about when I feel is the appropriate time one is ready to enter a relationship, my answer (as of now) will be: Never, I do not feel the average human being will ever be able to accumulate enough wisdom and moral sensibility in their life to fully commit in one.

Basically, I just find there is no use building up relationships and tearing them down, hurting many others and yourself in the process. Why put yourself, and those around you, through pain and complication and troubles, when things can go on simply? I guess it is the happenings of this era that damages relations – the way technologically is advancing, slowly ridding people of emotions, as well as the way people are growing more materialistic and power-hungry or wealth-hungry. At the same time, you can't deny that you do see old folks nowadays with their partners, both spotting fully greyed heads and faces plagued with wrinkles, but still holding on to each other endearingly, hobbling with mutual support. But we all know this is a rapidly vanishing sight.

I wonder what the future holds for all couples out there. I wonder how things will be like for my generation. Certainly the rise of divorce cases will continue steeply, or maybe, people will not even get married in the first place, lest the hassle of divorce. But once again I'd like to reiterate, as of now, I do not believe a knight in shining armour will come riding along on a white horse, to sweep me off my feet and to rescue me to my castle in the land of happily ever after. I do not believe there is another person out there that is predestined to be with me for eternity. And I do not believe that people will all suddenly wake up on day and realise the craziness of the things they are currently doing now, and the amount of unnecessary hurt that is brought about in the course of it.

Fundamentally, the ugliness and baseness of human nature is ubiquitous. If not eradicated, amicable interpersonal relations will always remain a chore.

How Will We Love?

As much as I've been telling myself to stop wasting time and to concentrate on work, I spent the last 38 minutes watching part of the above video, and another(update) about 27 minutes writing this post.

I won't firmly say I completely understand or agree with what is said in the video. I mean, the topic of love is very elusive, and come on, I'm fifteen! But it is a wholly undefined and most definitely not concrete concept I feel. I cannot comment much about this at my age, at my point, but I do think it is extremely sad how it is true, that relationships do not seem to sustain in modern society. As statistics reveal in the video, there is indeed a large number of divorce cases occurring, and it is undeniable that this number is bound to rise, exponentially. Similarly, issues mentioned such as adultery and otherwise, they are happening around and we have to face it.

I have said before I do not believe in true love, or the idea that two people can be together for the rest of their lives. Not that my parents have any issues in their marriage, but basically because I feel that livelong commitment and whole-hearted trust and selfless eternal affection are things that homosapiens just cannot seem to manage. Despite all the talk about how one can truly go all out and dedicate their remaining years to being with someone else, once they have found The One they are destined to be with, I do not agree; especially so, in this day and age of globalization and modernization. I just find there is no substantial amount of truth or even evidence, that this is possible.

Not to say that I have loss all faith in human kind, to a certain extent perhaps, but at the end of the day, I just have the thought that it is not practical to be involved so madly in a relationship. Maybe I will only think so now, at this age. But right now I feel, relationships are complicated – any kind of relationships, friends, family, acquaintances, colleagues. Interpersonal bonds at any level are complicated. And it appears so unfamiliar and incomprehensible to me. Additionally, besides its complicity, there is a distinct element of fragility bugs me too. Relationships and ties are just so breakable – one moment it is so strong, so sturdy, and brimming with hope and promise, while the next, it crumbles into smithereens. It is very saddening.

So perhaps it is this mentality of mine about the fragility of relationships that has led me to disbelief the power of love. Of marriage. To put it cuttingly, at this point, I think marriage, or relationships on a whole, is a waste of time. With regards to marriage, isn't it merely a said title? And as for Love, isn't it merely a term humans have made up, as a loose coverage of a huge pool of indescribable emotions? It is all only words; words hold no weight. Isn't it disgusting how words can just be thrown out into the universe, and mean nothing, and everything at the same time? Just look at how all the flowery and sweet-as-sorbet expressions gush out when one is in "love". What bullcrap.

Whatever it is, I do agree I am far from being mature enough to understand the nuances of adults – the whole love, romance, relationship and marriage stunt. Truly, it makes no sense to me. Maybe I come across sounding very naive and even stupid to adults, or even peers, but frankly, this is my two cents worth. And just to put it out, to an even greater extent am I unable to begin to fathom why people of my age would go or desire to enter romantic relationships. Do you honestly know what you are going after? Well, my take would be, you don't. Quit wasting your time i will say. But then again, my words hold no substance.

However, if you do question me about when I feel is the appropriate time one is ready to enter a relationship, my answer (as of now) will be: Never, I do not feel the average human being will ever be able to accumulate enough wisdom and moral sensibility in their life to fully commit in one.

Basically, I just find there is no use building up relationships and tearing them down, hurting many others and yourself in the process. Why put yourself, and those around you, through pain and complication and troubles, when things can go on simply? I guess it is the happenings of this era that damages relations – the way technologically is advancing, slowly ridding people of emotions, as well as the way people are growing more materialistic and power-hungry or wealth-hungry. At the same time, you can't deny that you do see old folks nowadays with their partners, both spotting fully greyed heads and faces plagued with wrinkles, but still holding on to each other endearingly, hobbling with mutual support. But we all know this is a rapidly vanishing sight.

I wonder what the future holds for all couples out there. I wonder how things will be like for my generation. Certainly the rise of divorce cases will continue steeply, or maybe, people will not even get married in the first place, lest the hassle of divorce. But once again I'd like to reiterate, as of now, I do not believe a knight in shining armour will come riding along on a white horse, to sweep me off my feet and to rescue me to my castle in the land of happily ever after. I do not believe there is another person out there that is predestined to be with me for eternity. And I do not believe that people will all suddenly wake up on day and realise the craziness of the things they are currently doing now, and the amount of unnecessary hurt that is brought about in the course of it.

Fundamentally, the ugliness and baseness of human nature is ubiquitous. If not eradicated, amicable interpersonal relations will always remain a chore.